Is there something there?

In metaphysics class while discussing Anscolmbe's argument for the existence of God, a young woman challenged the premise that the best things are better if they exist in reality rather than just in the mind. A man then asked her if she would rather be an idea or be real. The woman didn't know what to say to the question besides the fact that she would rather exist outside of an idea. But many nights later, she thought of the better reply: would he, the man, rather her exist in his mind than in reality? For it seems that many men would rather women exist in their minds than in reality. And many women would rather men exist in their minds than in reality. And many people say that people exist in minds and in reality. But I'm not sure if thats necessarily true.